Reference points
Why are they there and why are they important?
What is a reference point “officially”?
“A reference point is a point, object or system considered fixed, relative to which we determine the position, movement or change of another body.
It is necessary in physics and everyday life because movement and position are relative – they cannot be interpreted in themselves, only in relation to something else.”
Why is this important to us?
Just think about it, from the moment of our birth, without “reference points”, we would not be able to “interpret” anything in our lives, to handle it “in its place”.
Our parents, the house, the family environment, the religion in the community, and the awareness of identity all appear as reference points. Compared to these, we will be able to begin to “define ourselves”.
The reference point or points in themselves, when looking at the outside world, can often prove to be "not enough", so it is worth thinking in reference systems.
The reference system includes:
the reference point,
directions (where is forward, up, down, etc.)
time measurement, time scale (when do we start observing, how long does it last).
The family structure, parents, siblings, relatives, the way they relate to us, their presence, and their absence, are all "systems".
Kindergarten, then school, teachers, and classmates are others.
As we grow, we encounter larger and more complex systems. We learn more and more about system elements and the rules associated with them.
Too much information, too much data, too many reference points and systems can overwhelm us with time. Especially when we need and want to constantly comply with elements that are very different from one another.
How can we avoid, treat, and possibly systematically eliminate the state of “system freeze” (apathy, depression, listlessness, giving up, hopelessness, and the like)?
How can we start looking inward? To find our inner centre. Our own gravitational point, inner self. To hear our inner voice. The directions that form within us.
How does this happen?
With self-observation.
With small steps. Persistently.
With simple, honest statements.
What is it that we like, what is it that we don’t? What is it that still fits in, and what is it that no longer fits in? What is it that I want, and what is it that I no longer have, or not at all?
Recognizing and defining these helps us to better, easier, and truer alignment with others and the outside world. And through them, we show the outside world how to align with us more harmoniously.
It teaches us to choose, decide and take responsibility for ourselves, especially if we want to support ourselves and not destroy ourselves.
Because self-denial, even if it sometimes appears as politeness, consideration, or selflessness, is self-destructive in the long run.
Interesting fact: There is no "absolute" reference point in space. Even the Sun moves relative to the centre of the galaxy, and our galaxy moves relative to other galaxies. Everything is just a matter of perspective!
Every moment is ours to make a more supportive decision for ourselves and to implement it.
You can choose to do your job and, at the same time, support and help others in ways that resonate with your real values.
It will work, do you believe it?
